A Complaint Free World - Will Bowen

I'm not really into self help books, except perhaps diet books, which explains one of my next reads. Really, really. Unfortunately I'm big time into complaining. Say it isn't so. Well it is and I'm really not a fan. This book is written by a pastor that decided to start a book group for his parishioners. On a whim he also started a social experiment to see is he and they could stop complaining and how their lives would change if they did such. In order to facilitate the experiment he bought 500 hundred wrist bands. Each person who wanted to participate got one. Each time they complained or gossiped they would move the wrist band from one wrist to the other. In that way they were able to become more self aware. Then after they had gone 21 days without having to move the band they took it off. Many people failed, in fact it took the pastor months to complete the task, but what follows are his experiences and those of his parishioners and why it was worth it to them. Honestly I don't know if I can do it. I mean half of my blogs are built on complaining but I don't think it would hurt me one bit to become a little more self aware so I ordered 3 bracelets for free. The experiment could be done with a rubber band or penny as well.

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Sap Factor (*) - Personal stories...ick!

Naughty Bits () - Nada nada lemondada.

Readability (***) - 192 pages but supper small. Pocket size.

Final notes - Hey I think it is an interesting experiment. I don't know if I'll make it or not but it would be nice to curb it a bit :)

Mountains Beyond Mountains - Tracy Kidder

Tracy Kidder was a reporter. I don't know what he used to write. I really don't care. One day he met Paul Farmer and started a project trying to pin down the essence of Paul. For those of you who have never heard of Paul Farmer he is a super star in the world of humanitarian aid. Jason tells me that in his classes when they talk about aid work they will often say, "You can't be Paul Farmer." Here is why. Paul Farmer is incredible. As a young man he went to Haiti to decide if he wanted to be an anthropologist or a doctor. The poverty and health crisis he saw there became his life mission. While still in medical school he began spending massive amounts of time running a clinic in Haiti. His professors excused his many absences because of his excellent grades. By the time he graduated from Harvard Medical School he had been working as an MD for six years and had more experience than most stateside doctors. He then moved to Haiti and began working full time in a hospital he raised the money for and had built in Cange. He took on the problems of TB and AIDS and his studies and treatment programs have changed the way treatment programs are run all over the world. Kidder talks with his family, his friends, his colleagues, and Paul himself. He follows his life for years visiting with him in Haiti in the most humble of circumstances and going to conferences with him where he is a keynote and being honored. Kidder takes everything and puts it out there for you.

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Sap Factor (***) - I don't know how to explain this book. What Paul Farmer does is incredible. The people he works with are some of the most destitute in the world. Their country is in shambles, their health care system non-existent, poverty rampant, but they have Paul Farmer on their side. It is heart warming but rough.

Naughty Bits (**) - Cursing

Readability (***) - 336 pages. This story is excellent, well written.

Final notes - I really struggled with this book. What normally would have taken just a couple of days took me a week. I would read and think, and think, and think, and then read again. I always felt a little off kilter. First and foremost it challenged some of the deeply held ideas I had about humanitarian work and resources management, but I guess that is sort of Paul's point. Paul Farmer challenged the WHO and those "who knew" about TB. He ran/runs his clinic differently than any other place on earth. Where other people talk about appropriate technology and getting the most for your dollar Paul takes on all challenges and spends on all patients. It seems reckless but Paul and his group have made huge changes in drug availability and cost because they were willing to challenge the status quo and the established research. Paul Farmer's story also challenged me personally. At moments I thought, "I'm not doing enough. I should be doing more." Then there were other times when I thought, "How can he do this. I can't do this. I'm no Paul Farmer." It was difficult. In the end of my life I don't know what I'll have done and what I will have to look back on but I do know for sure I won't be Paul Farmer. I just hope I'll be able to say I tried a little bit more.

Enna Burning - Shannon Hale

When I picked up Goose Girl I figured I might as well get the next in the series. Enna Burning brings back many of the same characters but mainly focuses on Enna, one of Princess Isi's friends from back in her Goose Girl days. Enna's brother discovers an ancient vellum manuscript that teaches him to talk to create fire and make it do his bidding, but the need to burn quickly overtakes him. Enna learns to do the same in a hope of figuring out how to save him. When Bayern is drawn into a war she uses her gift to try and sway the war in Bayern favor.

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Sap Factor (* ) - People die. Love story.

Naughty Bits () - Like Goose Girl this book is for grade school kids.

Readability (****) - 336 pages and they go supper fast.

Final notes - This book isn't quite as good as Goose Girl but it is still fun. I can't wait to read these to Grace when she gets a little older.

Goose Girl - Shannon Hale

Loosely based on the Grimm's Fairy Tales, Goose Girl tells the tale of the young Princess Anidori-Kiladra Talianna Isillee, who is sent to another country to fulfill a marriage contract. On the way her lady-in-waiting, Selia, makes a move to kill her and take her place as the queen. Princess Anidori escapes, and while she tries to figure out how to show Selia's deception she uses the skill she has of talking with birds to work with the King's own geese.

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Sap Factor (* ) - Anidori is betrayed by both her mother and her "best" friend Selina. Also a bit lovely dovey.

Naughty Bits () - This book is for 4th-6th graders. It is all on the up, up.

Readability (****) - 400 pages but they go fast. I finished in an afternoon.

Final notes - All the ladies in my ward were reading this book so I figured well why not. It's cute and fun and goes by fast. It would be a great book to own to read to your kids.

Giving - Bill Clinton

I really enjoyed this book but I think that is mainly because I was in the right frame of mind for it. Earlier in the week we watched a 20/20 special about Camden, New Jersey and I had gone to bed thinking, "What can I do? How can I help the world? " The next morning I picked this book up. I was inspired. Not by the book itself but by what I think I can do with it.

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Sap Factor ( ) - You would think a book about giving would be a tear jerker but this one isn't. Instead I saw it as a doorway to give me ideas for books, websites, causes, and crusades I never would have heard about otherwise.

Naughty Bits () - It is Bill Clinton. My mom said, "What does he know about giving." Oh my. Jason said, "Has she been listening to Rush?"

Readability (**) - A tad dry but at 256 pages, each packed with a new website or book to look at it is quick read.

Final notes - Like I said I saw this book as a doorway or a guide to introduce me to projects I need to/want to know more about. The possibilities about service it opened up to me made it worth it. Three of my favorite projects mentioned were:
Kiva a site where you can become a lender or part lender for micro loans around the globe. Once your money is paid back you have the option to re-lend or to take it back.
Heifer International a group that gives farm animal and teaches sustainable farming. One of the requirements of the gift is that you pass on the first offspring of your animal to another person so that the gift keeps on giving.
America's Second Harvest (Backpack Club) an opportunity to help keep kids feed on the weekends. Many children suffer on the weekends when they don't get free lunch/breakfast. The backpack club gives them a few essentials each weekend so that they can make it through the lean times.

I also absolutely must get my hands on some information about Paul Farmer, a doctor who is doing amazing things building health care initiatives that work in developing countries.

World War Z - Max Brooks

This book is AWESOME! I mean it really. I picked it up on a lark. I thought what is this...zombie fiction? Zombie fiction, what the heck is zombie fiction? The world has changed. Zombies have risen all over the world. Cities are destroyed. Millions of people are dead. Civilization is completely different. It sounds utterly ridiculous. But the book is fantastic. Brooks writes first person accounts of the experience totally straitlaced. You hear from doctors who discovered the condition. Politicians who came up with policy to deal with it. Soldiers who fought the zombies. Regular civilians from all over the world who survived and how they did it.

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Sap Factor ( ) - I didn't feel sappy about this book but we are talking millions of people dying her so I can't say it wouldn't affect everyone else the same way.

Naughty Bits (***) - Potty words, desperation, violence, and perhaps some reference to sex.

Readability (****) - 352 pages. The writing jumps around from author to author. The tone is serious. You would think that it would be difficult but it isn't. It is hard to put it down. You want to know the end. See the resolution.

Final notes - This book is not for the faint of heart but to me it was a masterpiece. The amount of detail and thought that went into this reality was brilliant. I mean come on zombies are totally unrealistic but he weaves the story and you can see it.

Confessions of an Ugly Stepsister - Gregory Maquire

Confessions is the real story of Cinderella. Set in 17th century Holland it begins when the two Fisher sisters, Iris and Ruth, find themselves back in Holland after there father is killed and they have to flee England with their Mother, Margarethe. Things look bleak for the family until they are taken in by a Dutch artist who shows them compassion by feeding them and giving them a home. Margarethe wants more though and they soon move in to run the home of a wealthy tulip exporter who has a beautiful daughter Clara. After Van den Meer's wife dies, Margarethe marries Van den Meer. What follows is the classic tale of Cinderella, but motives are explained and one sees that no one is completely innocent or guilty. People are people trying to work within the confines of their culture, station, and abilities, trying to make the best life for themselves possible.

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Sap Factor ( *) - There are hard times in this book but the characters are forced to deal with them in the context of survival and can not spend time dwelling on their misfortunes.

Naughty Bits (*) - Some deceit and desire.

Readability (***) - 384 pages, reads well.

Final notes - It is fun to read the story of Cinderella again. I enjoy the way that no one person is completely good or evil. I found the tulip history extremely interesting.

Obsession - Jonathan Kellerman

Why do I continue to read Jonathan Kellerman books? Why, why why? I think Alex Delaware was one of the first mystery characters but that doesn't mean I have to keep reading about him does it? Alex Delaware and his big buddy Milo Sturgis look into a mystery brought to them by teenager Tanya Bigelow who Delaware treated as a child for obsessive-compulsive disorder. Her aunt Patty/adopted mother left a cryptic message before she died and Tanya wants to know what it was about.

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Sap Factor ( ) - A young girl loses the only person she has in the world and you feel nothing. One of the reasons I think this book is pointless.

Naughty Bits (**) - I'm pretty sure there was Alex and girlfriend loving but it can be skipped

Readability (***) - 368 pages. Fast read.

Final notes - Sometimes I just hate when writers get famous. Their books come out on the New York Sellers Best List but the truth is the author doesn't have to put any work in it. If you just want something to read this book goes fast but the mystery is weak and the way it is solved is totally unbelievable. The quality is mediocre. Save your time. Read something else.

A Thousand Splendid Suns - Khaled Hosseini

A Thousand Splendid Suns follows the lives of two women living in Afghanistan from the 70's to present. It begins with Mariam the bastard daughter of a rich man who loves his daughter but does not know how to deal with the shame of his own misdeed. After "tragedy" takes the life of her mother, Mariam is forced into a marriage with 40 year old Rasheed. Violence ensues. After eighteen or so years when Mariam has been unable to produce a child, Rasheed "saves" 14-year-old Laila from a rocket fire that claims her parents. Laila has another love but for her own reasons feels she has no choice but to marry Rasheed. Through Laila Mariam is able to feel again and the women join forces to take care of Laila's children and fight Rasheed. I'm not going to give the ending away but it shows redemption and the power of love. The whole story follows the history of the region.

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Sap Factor ( ***) - There are some very sad parts in this book. War is not easy and it leaves casualties. There is lots of loss. Situationally it is a four out of four sap factor but for me something was missing in the writing and I felt a little detached from the characters.

Naughty Bits (**) - Children born out of wedlock, premarital sex, lying, spousal abuse, and murder. This is a book about war and the things people do when they are desperate. Not for the faint of heart.

Readability (***) - 384 pages, reads well.

Final notes - I liked the book although like I mentioned before it felt slightly detached to me.

The Lucifer Effect - Philip Zimbordo

In the 1970s Philip Zimbardo conducted the Standford Prison Experiment that took college aged men, separated them into groups of "prisoners" and "guards" and then watched as the groups quickly turned on each other. The study was prematurely ended because of concerns about the well being of the participants and has never been duplicated. He applies to this framework the story of Abu Ghraib prison. He was an expert witness for the defense in the court martial of one of the guards. He feels like the system pushes people toward this type of behavior. I say wake up and smell the freedom of choice. The full title of the book is "The Lucifer Effect, How Good People Turn Evil." My alternate theory is that maybe they were evil to begin with. No, that isn't it. The point is a lot of us have things inside of us that aren't so pretty, that we battle with daily. Some of us want to let them out and if they find someone else to give the responsibility for such to they will.

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Sap Factor ( ) - none for me on this one. Very clinical.

Naughty Bits (*) - You get to see all the lovely Abu Ghraib pics again.

Readability (**) - Reads like a psych book. Interesting but at 575 pages definitely not bathroom reading.

Final notes - I don't agree. While it may be human nature to polarize and pick, yes I've been in junior high as well, we have to fight for something better in ourselves. Do not use 30 + year old studies as justification to be naughty.

Kabul Beauty School - Deborah Rodriquez

Deborah Rodriquez is a hair cutting nut. I mean that in the kindest way possible. To escape a not so nice husband she decides to do humanitarian aid. She ends up helping rescue workers at the twin towers and after that decides to join a trip to Afghanistan. Once there she finds that her skills as a beautician are much in need by the NGOs as well as a training tool that can better the lives of the women of Afghanistan. She decides to start a beauty school and amazingly is able to pull it off. What follows is an interesting tale of her accomplishments, the lives of the women she meets, and her take on the culture.

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Sap Factor (***) - The women of her school have heartbreaking stories. War and poverty have made them desperate to make a better life for their families. Some find success. Some are pulled down into darkness.

Naughty Bits (***) - Oh my, Mrs. Rodriquez. She brings out the beauty parlor talk in everything. I learned that Afghan weddings can be fairly racy. Wow! She also marries some Afghan guy for love although seeing as originally they can't even speak to each other I think she was just lonely and that was the best she could do. But she doesn't tell her family about it and in several other cases encourages lying from her students. I know it's all in the name of a good cause, but it still makes me sad. There are probably some potty words as well.

Readability (****) - Very much so. 320 pages of sadness and heart break but with a fun edge and a beauty parlor finish.

Final note - I see these stories on the news all the time. They are presented by reporters, they are recorded by aid workers, but there is something about this crass lady and her take on things. She points out stuff that no aid worker would report. She is willing to do things no reporter would dare. She gives you another take.

Born on a Blue Day - Daniel Tammet

Born on a Blue Day tells in his own words the life and history of Daniel Tammet, a 27 year old autistic savant with Asperger's syndrome. Tammet is one of only fifty savants that has a condition known as synesthesia that allows him to experience numbers and words as "shapes, colors, textures, motions, and even emotions. He explains through writing and picture how this is manifest and how he uses this "syndrome" to memorize huge quantities of information as well as try to relate to the rest of the world.

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Sap Factor (**) - Tammet's writing is almost completely devoid of emotion but thoughts of how this would have affected him and his family are never far from mind.

Naughty Bits (*) - I just put this one star because I couldn't remember if there was naughtiness. I don't think there is, but still :)

Readability (*) - Personally I struggled. It may only be 256 pages but they are 256 pages written by someone with autism and you can feel that.

Final notes- Felt almost like textbook reading but it was interesting to see how this young man's mind worked. For me personally though it may have been easier to swallow in journal form.

Heart-Shaped Box - Joe Hill

Somewhere I read that this book was a thriller. What does that even mean? I guess someone must have thought it was suspenseful but I laughed through most of the "scary" scenes. Hill uses a lot of humor and I thought the suspense was more of a joke on his part. Maybe I misread. The Heart-Shaped Box is about an aging, I'm talking Ozzy Osbourne aging, rock star who is obsessed with the dead and fills his house with tons of creepy nick knacks. He buys a ghost in an online auction only to find that it means to haunt him, maim him, kill some of his friends, and then kill him. The rock star has to delve into the ghost's past or die. That's basically the book.

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Sap Factor (***) - Womanizer finally finds love? That seems sappy enough to me although sap is not the point.

Naughty Bits (****) - Old man rocker, has lots of groupie girlfriends and is mean to them. Potty language.

Readability (****) - 384 pages. Reads easy.

Final notes- What is the point? I'm trying to be enthusiastic. That's it.

The Israel Lobby - John J. Mearsheimer and Stephen M. Wait

I was looking for something different. Something to stand out of the fluff and gruff that I so love to read. This is what I came up with. The authors start the book out by saying, "Hey we realize this is a touchy subject. People are going to call us racist. We understand that but we feel like it is important to bring this information to light." (Well in a few more words but you get the picture). They are right on all counts. Their research deals with the uneven handed US foreign policy toward Israel. It is touchy and I guess if you support these policies it may seem racist. Hey, I don't and it still seemed a bit on the edge, not the research itself but just compiling it. I honestly thought why do they feel the need to needle this. At one point I flipped to the front to see the authors' names and when I saw the "heimer" I thought, oh my. But then I realized, hey this is the time of supposed information freedom and just because they felt the need to share this information doesn't mean they are or are racist, or related to racists. Does it matter? Perhaps, perhaps not. They are like the anti-lobby and in my book that means take a look. The research they have compiled is AWESOME! I've dabbled in a tiny bit of the region's history, but there was stuff I'd never heard. There was stuff that my husband who has a BA in Near Eastern Studies had never heard or perhaps just forgot. Multiple times in this book I looked up and said, "Did you know this?" Actually I did that a lot!

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Yuck Factor (*) - Politics is always a little icky in my opinion :)

Readability (****) - This is 496 pages of research but some of this length is taken up with footnotes and it flows nicely. Plus the "wow, I never knew that factor" keeps you plowing on.

Final notes - I agree that you could be suspect of their motives, but they are writing a book that has an argument and the argument is, "The US has crappy Middle Eastern policies and that is hurting us." They don't need to stay balanced. They are making their argument and from where I'm sitting it isn't half bad.

The Friday Night Knitting Club-Kate Jacobs

Who doesn't wish that they had a few domestic skills? I know I certainly do. I remember searching for a sewing machine feeling like that ability to create would fill some type of need I had. It did. Creation is it's own reward. The women in this book would agree. In this first novel by Kate Jacobs, the author explores a knitting club in New York City and the lives of its diverse members. She tackles the themes of family, the love and the the hurt involved there. She looks at relationships, those that work, those that don't, and the healing needed for both. Womanhood is a central theme as well as motherhood, and the need to finds ones' own self, fulfillment, and worth. There are plenty of moments to laugh and a few to cry.

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Sap Factor (***) - Discovering one's roots, mother-daughter time, health issues, loving and loss. There is plenty of emotion to go around.

Naughty Bits (**) - Seventy year-olds going to the gynecologist and some references to sexual relationships. Some language.

Readability (****) - Isn't going to take all week. 352 nice smooth pages. Written in multiple views but still flows easily.

Final notes- In the end I wanted to pick up some needles. I won't because how many new hobbies can you pick a year but Jacobs made knitting seem exciting and made me want to stretch myself a little further.